The other type will just try and find another mind game to play, or give up and move on to somebody else.4) Focus on changing yourself, not the other person I said in the beginning of this post that we’re all vulnerable to being manipulated and being manipulative.However, some people are more vulnerable than others. I never thought I’d write an article on this either, but you know I got a plan 🙂If you’ve been following the blog, you know I’m not a big fan of using your precious brainpower, energy and time in an effort to try to get someone back into your life that consistently treated you poorly. You miss him, you miss all of his quirks and jokes and the way that he made you feel.You make an excuse for and justify everything that he did that was wrong, disrespectful and hurtful because you feel like it was I’m sharing this with you because a lot of you have emailed asking me how to get your ex boyfriend back. Your first problem is that through your internal, OCD, one-track, incessant hamster wheel thoughts (and it doesn’t matter if no one knows what you’re thinking.
Most people are intuitive enough to realize when and how they’re being played and walk away, but even where the mind games “succeed”, the relationship will become troubled over time.
That is, they have something about them that mind game players are able to take advantage of/exploit to advance their needs, goals, interests or agenda.
It could be fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of not finding someone else, feelings of inadequacy etc.
Right now he knows that he has you under his thumb. To him, that’s just unnecessary “drama” and it turns him off because this guy lacks empathy.
In his mind, you are too hung up on him, too broken over the breakup to have a life of your own and he views that as desperate and pathetic weakness. I’m telling you that you absolutely must make him believe that you are completely over him. Pick ONE friend that you trust or better yet, stop yapping to your friends. You never know which “friend” will go tell the wrong “friend” of his that you’re struggling.
There was a time in my life when I did some things that were not so “loving”, and I write about this in my Dating Your Ex e Book.“If your ex is one of those “don’t-care”, too proud to beg or self-confident secure in themselves kind of people, not picking up the phone isn’t going to stop your ex from going to a movie, party or whatever they choose to do. I remember a few times saying things like “I miss you so much, please don’t do this to me” all the while laughing my heart out imagining how the other person was congratulating himself on the other side of the phone.