Does that mean that of marriage it's sin for a woman to initiate a coffee? But it is wise and right to set patterns in dating that will serve you well in marriage, especially if we accept the premise that the purpose of dating is to find a marriage partner.
It would save a lot of headaches and heartache, wouldn't it? This kind of "first impression" information is very helpful as you think about who you will or won't consider dating. Not exactly the kind of people you want to trust with your self-image or your reputation. Are you headed in the same general direction in life? John Piper is founder and teacher of desiring and chancellor of Bethlehem College & Seminary.For 33 years, he served as pastor of Bethlehem Baptist Church, Minneapolis, Minnesota.If you don't like the way things have gone in group settings, take the reins and create a better situation.Whether you're a man or a woman, it's fine to initiate and plan a group evening out or get-together — and to select the guest list.I know you wrote in your question that you've had some difficulty getting to know people in groups, but as far as how to generally get to know someone short of dating, I still think getting together in groups is the best place to start.