The author’s recommendations are based on observing the post-decision experiences of multiple couples who either stayed together or broke up after suffering from a state of ambivalence related to one of the 36 questions.
The author then watched how those relationships turned out in the long run.
The recommendations are based on the author’s observations and her professional opinion, so I don’t recommend you take her advice blindly.
However, I personally found all of her conclusions utterly sensible and didn’t find any surprises.
It’s called Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay by Mira Kirshenbaum.
I read this book many years ago, and it completely changed how I think about long-term relationships.
I do always suffer from a disease called LOVE…If you are reading my answers, read my other answers too, and give your feedback.
Each question is like passing your relationship through a filter.In order to achieve the recommendation that you should stay together, you must pass through all 36 filters.If even one filter snags you, the recommendation is to leave.The cons tell you to leave, while the pros tell you to stay.Plus you’re required to predict future pros and cons, so how are you going to predict the future of your relationship?In order to perform a relationship diagnosis, the author offers a series of 36 yes/no questions to ask yourself.